Just thinking about writing this one makes me cringe a little. Family dynamics are hands-down, the introvert’s nightmare as a wedding coordinator. They can be hard and awkward and sometimes anxiety inducing. But everyone has them. Even on our smoothest wedding days with families that get along on both sides, there is always “that person” that at best can be described as eccentric, and at worst described as a loose cannon.
There are a million examples that came to my head for “that person” but I don’t need to spell it out. You know who it is in your family. And if you’re one of our past brides, we know who it is too!
Family dynamics is one of the most difficult things sometimes as a bride or groom to anticipate. You don’t know if “they” will be on their best behavior. They’re a loose cannon. A wild card. The way we navigate family dynamics is, a lot of times, one of the first questions we get asked at consultations.
For those of you that are new here, we are Grace and Truth Weddings. We are named grace and truth for a reason. One of us has a more natural propensity towards grace, one of us has a more natural propensity towards truth. Some people label it as “too nice” or “savage” (<-- my favorite). But the reality is that when dealing with family you absolutely need both and we are the perfect, non-family buffer to put a little space between you and them and put your mind at ease leading up to and on your wedding day. We have done it all. We keep divorced parents at least 100 feet away from each other, we make sure someone doesn’t just jump into pictures, we make sure they don’t get a microphone from the DJ, we cut them off at the bar.
The way we handle family dynamics is individual to you and your family. Every family has their stuff. Our goal is to find out what you as the bride and groom are worried about, and take that off your plate. More often than not, family members are on their best behavior on your wedding day. They are there to celebrate you, the love you share, and the excitement of the future. But in case they aren’t, we will be there!